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10.03.22

Being in relationship and married to my husband has been THE most triggering thing and THE most healing part of my life to date. 

In that way, and many others, he is my "everything."

 

As I write this I feel overwhelmed with gratitude for his beautiful heart and all that he does as a husband, a father and a man. 

 

And there have been times when I had to be HIS rock, and it felt hard. Really hard.

 

And I did it anyway.

 

He has broken my trust, hurt me and wronged me. 

 

And I've done all those things to him too.

 

No matter what, through it all, we CHOOSE to be best friends anyway.

 

We cuddle and watch a show after our kid is asleep.

We talk about our dreams and our sexual fantasies. We laugh and cry together. 

We apologize after fighting. 

We fail (sometimes epically) and try again.

 

Most importantly, when shit hits the fan (it does), we don't ask IF we can make our marriage work…

 

We get curious about HOW we can make it work. (While still honoring ourselves.)

 

Keep in mind…

 

If I was reading this years ago in the throes of my relationship anxiety I would've compared myself to this, like “oh my relationship doesn't have that, maybe I'm not with the right partner.”

 

Don't do that. 

 

Your relationship has so many treasures in it that mine doesn't.

 

Neither is right or wrong, better or worse.

 

They're just different.

 

We are all unique. And at the same time, the core of the message is the same…

 

None of us is perfect.

 

On a Soul level we are truly divine and as humans we are messy and bumbling at best.

 

But your relationship is strong.

 

You are strong.

 

Your love is strong.

 

No matter what your mind says or your body feels, you can do this.

 

Idk who needs to hear this today, but there you go.

 

All my love, 

xo Samara Lane

PS - a note for the OCD mind: I don’t feel “in love” with my husband all the time, and he is not literally my “everything.” Those are the fairytales we were sold growing up. Not only are they unrealistic, they’re unnecessary. Real love don’t need all the bells and whistles. It just needs faith. 





9.26.22

One of you recently asked me about my RA / ROCD experience...

"Did you ever think you wouldn't make it?"

 

The answer is absolutely YES. 1000 times I thought this.

 

And in those moments, I BELIEVED it. I really had more breakup urges that I can count, thousands of times when I thought "this is it... I always knew we'd end... it wasn't RA all along... we really are breaking up."

 

I also have come full circle to the other side of that.

 

To the place where I have complete trust and faith in our relationship, marriage and family, NO MATTER WHAT.

 

I BELIEVE in our marriage and in MYSELF to make this choice and build a life with my partner.

 

It no longer matters to me:

 

- How I attracted or in love I feel

- Whether we argued recently

- How any other relationship looks or compares

- What other people do, say or think about our relationship

- What negative thoughts pop into my head automatically

- How emotional one of us feels about something

 

I know how to come back into love, connection and joy in myself and our relationship.

 

I know I can trust myself and my decisions.

 

I know that no matter what happens, I've made the perfect choice for me.

 

How did I get here?

 

It starts with a decision.

 

A decision to keep showing up as the version of myself that I desire to be.

 

To keep treating my partner how I would treat him if I WAS sure about us.

 

To keep getting curious about what's really at the root of my own anxiety/triggers (it has nothing to do with our partners, despite how messy and flawed they may be!)

 

To keep asking myself, HOW can this work? Instead of "what if it doesn't work."

 

There's a gumption to it. A conviction.

 

When you make that decision, you become unstoppable.

 

This is why I created the 30 Day Intensive and why my clients get such consistently jaw-dropping results.

 

Not only do I work 1:1 with you in a private container to get straight to the root of the problem, heal whatever is underneath, master your mindset (while staying true to yourself) + show you how to never fall victim to anxiety again...

 

Your BELIEF (and the real stuff to prove it) is going to SKYROCKET.

 

You are not stuck this way.

Relationship anxiety & ROCD are not a life sentence.

This is not who you are.

There's nothing wrong with you.

You are NOT the exception.

 

If this resonates, I invite you to take the next step now and join me in the 30 Day Intensive. 

 

It will change your life.

 

This can be you:

 

"Things are going so well. I'm so much calmer. Our relationship has been so strong lately. We've had more sex than ever before since you've been supporting me. We're just so happy and I feel my anxiety being night and day away from where I was prior to working together."

 

"Without you I'm not sure where I would be. Thank you from the bottom of my heart."

 

"You are a god send! I have worked with so many therapists and no one has made me feel so cared for... Things are amazing. You saved my relationship and helped me so much. You are a rock star and I can never thank you enough."

 

See details, pricing & join now.

 

Or email me here with any questions! 

 





xo Samara Lane



9.19.22

Everything changed the moment I stopped trying to make it work.

For years I spent most of my waking hours trying to make enough money to NOT feel stressed or inadequate…

Or hoping my partner would change or become “better” so that I could feel confident and safe in our relationship... 

Or trying to say and do all the “right” things in order to be enough and approved of by others.

The more I tried to MAKE things happen, the more frustrated and fearful I became.

Anytime something appeared to go “wrong” I would lose my sh*t and frantically try to fix it (which only made things worse.) 

And after about 17,894,922,670 times of doing this…

It finally dawned on me 😂 IT WASN’T WORKING.

Not truly. Not really. 

So I decided to do things differently. 

Not from a place of trying to GET something. 

But from a place of trust. 

A place of “I already am and have everything I need. And so it is.” 

I started responding to situations as if they weren’t a problem and as if everything was always working out for me, so why sweat it. 

The more I did this, the more it became true.

And I realized that I had been the creator of my reality all along. 

This doesn’t mean my human feelings are invalid. 

Or that I consciously wanted and chose all my struggles.

Or that it’s my job to control, change or force things.

Quite the opposite!

By letting go and learning how to ground myself in self-trust and faith that life/God/Source always have my back…

I am unstoppable.

My business thrives. I get divine downloads, fresh inspiration and all my biggest sales months always come from this place. 
My relationship flourishes. Our connection, love, attraction and communication skyrocket.

And I get to spend most of my waking hours present, excited, grateful, fulfilled.

No more ruminating or overthinking…

Just relaxing into the arms of love & trust. 

How do you reconnect with your self-love or self-trust?

What makes you feel more connected to life or something greater than yourself? 

Do that now.

Be that now.

Live that now.

If you aren’t sure how, get on the waitlist now for Alignment Unleashed.

Message me. 



xo Samara Lane



9.12.22

Anxiety says no. Don’t. Stop. Stay. Resist. Grasp. 

Soul says “you are powerful beyond your wildest imagination.”

“You’ve got this.”

“You are SO safe.”

“You are divinely held and supported.”

“I’m always right here and I’ve got your back 1000%.”

“Maybe this will turn out even BETTER than you think.”

“Here’s your next step. Trust it. Do it. And I’ll tell you the rest later.”

Where are you not fully trusting in Soul/Spirit/Divine right now?

Where are you judging, resisting or not going all in on your heart’s desire?

Here’s your sign that you are SO safe to move forward.

Even if the fearful mind goes kicking and screaming…

That is not who you are. 

Even if circumstances look different at the moment than you desire them to be…

That is no longer who YOU are.

Take the leap and Soul will catch you.

Every.

Single.

Time.

(I promise!)

 



xo Samara Lane



9.05.22

Old me:

1) I hope this anxiety goes away.

2) I wish I could have the relationship, business, money, body, etc. that I want.


3) I wonder what I’m doing wrong. 

💜 New me:


1) How do I want to feel rn? 

How can I allow my body to feel that way right this moment without changing anything outside of me? 

Even just breathing and smiling into the knowing that I am already “there”, that life is already anyway that I choose it to be, that my desired experience doesn’t come from anything outside me but from INSIDE me right now.

2) How would I feel physically and emotionally if all of those dreams were already true? 

How can I allow my body to sink into that beautiful feeling in this moment? 

What would that version of me be doing, thinking or feeling rn? 

She wouldn’t be putting genetically modified foods on her plate, so I’ll choose mostly whole foods instead. 

She would allow herself to take a nap instead of forcing herself to work on her business while exhausted, so I’ll let my body rest first.

She wouldn’t ruminate about her relationship, she would remember that nothing bad is actually happening in this moment and she would appreciate her superhero husband, so I’m going to do that now.

3) Ah, I’m noticing something is happening that isn’t my desired reality. 

No big deal, this is just a reflection of what I manifested while I was in a lower vibrational mindset in the past. 

My only job in this moment is to trust… believe… KNOW… that everything I desire is already happening, and FEEL how amazing that experience feels in my body. 

From this place, there is no resistance.

There is no needing or wishing.

There is only “thank f*cking god for this incredible life of mine.”

And so it is.






xo Samara Lane



8.29.22

The deeper lesson behind "is my partner enough" is giving them the same love & acceptance we would hope to give ourselves.

We talk a lot in the Relationship Anxiety / ROCD community about how "is my partner right for me" is really a projection of our own lack of self-worth and self-love...

And how the deeper invitation is to radically accept ourselves, our worth, our humanity, our choices...

And yes, this is absolutely true.

But sometimes on my journey I've forgotten to then bring it back full circle to "and therefore my PARTNER is also equally enough, whole and complete exactly as they are."

The Relationship Anxiety / ROCD sometimes wants to stop at "okay I'm finally realizing my worth... so now does that mean I could find someone better? Am I settling?"

Instead, these questions are really shining a light on our need to learn how to love more deeply.

Learning to love and accept ourselves and our choices.

Learning to love and accept others equally.

Love is the highest calling, the highest spiritual duty than any one of us have on this planet.

Every time we choose to allow our partners to be enough, even when we aren't feeling butterflies, or when they do something we don't like, or when someone else looks better...

We are coming back to the deepest act of love there is.



xo Samara Lane



8.24.22

Sometimes... sh*t doesn't go as planned.

When my partner of 2 years proposed to me, it ended with me huddled in a ball, crying on the kitchen floor about all of his imperfections and my doubts that our relationship could work.
(Even though deep down I wanted to be with him.)

This is when I realized, uhh, I might have a problem.

I spent hours Googling and searching for answers. Finally, I stumbled on "relationship anxiety."

While I definitely still had my doubts that maybe I was the exception and it wasn't just anxiety... (after all, my partner was FAR from perfect and our relationship had SO many kinks to work out...)

I kept. Looking. Inward.

At first it was terrifying. What if I realized I had to leave my partner?

But the deeper I looked, the more I realized that this had just been my fear talking all along.

What I discovered to be the real issues were:

- lack of trusting myself or my choices
- general anxiety and overthinking
- perfectionism and "all or nothing" thinking
- a highly sensitive, empathic nature that only magnified everything I was thinking & feeling
- past relationships wounds & traumas that I thought I'd already healed (but were still running the show)
- and even more things that really, truly, were about MY relationship with ME.

It wasn't until I found the right combination of simple tools that work + awareness of my own unconscious patterns that I was able to break free and overcome anxiety.

But once I did, I was free.

❤️Free to say yes, enjoy our marriage, become a mom and plan our future.

❤️Free to hang out with other couples without constantly comparing our relationship.

❤️Free to wake up grateful, go to bed peaceful, and watch our love, connection, intimacy and communication flourish.

It's this freedom and "holy sh*t I just had a breakthrough" relief that I want to share with you.

This is why I created the 30 Day Intensive.

The 30 Day Intensive gives you unlimited, private 1:1 access to me by either Telegram, Voxer or email. (Telegram and Voxer are free “walkie talkie” apps that are perfect for this container.)
It’s like having me on speed dial in your back pocket for massive shifts and breakthroughs, on your time!

That’s 30 powerful days of personalized coaching, support, answers and guidance. Just imagine what you could accomplish with THAT level of support.

💫Pick your favorite platform (Telegram, Voxer OR email support) and get guaranteed responses directly from me within 24-48 hours on weekdays, and usually closer to 24 hours or less.

💫It normally includes 30 days of access to the entire Unstoppable Love Course with all my most powerful videos and tools, but for a limited time I’m throwing in LIFETIME access to the full Unstoppable Love Course, for no additional charge. This way you can go at your own pace and keep revisiting the course for inspiration and breakthroughs even after the 30 days together. ($500 value. THIS ALONE is worth the entire cost of the program.)

💫Plus it includes 30 days full access to the clients-only Facebook community where you get to connect with other members and get even deeper support from this safe, supportive tribe whenever you need it most. You’re not alone in this anymore!

All this for just $497 total, no other fees, just a one time payment and the whole 30 Day Intensive is yours. (Plus all the free bonuses above!)

I would love to help you create WAY more momentum, clarity, freedom and relief than you've ever had before!  
Connect with me now to get started.

If you're serious about living your happiest life NOW and ending this Relationship Anxiety & ROCD for good, look no further.

Here's just a tiny taste of what's possible for you:

💜"Things are going so well. I'm so much calmer. Our relationship has been so strong lately. We've had more sex than ever before since you've been supporting me. We're just so happy and I feel my anxiety being night and day away from where I was prior to working together." 

💜"I'm so thankful for everything you've taught me & for being so supportive throughout this. You're amazing!" 

➡️DM me now to sign up before enrollment ends & these bonuses disappear.


This is your chance to get unlimited, lifetime access to my entire step-by-step system for overcoming RA / ROCD and nurturing a strong relationship that stands the test of time...

Plus "holy sh*t I just had a breakthrough" coaching in the palm of your hand with total privacy and convenience around your schedule.

There is simply nothing else like this out there.
Questions or would love to learn more?
https://m.me/samarastreet

xo Samara Lane



8.22.22

My body is REALLY feeling the transition of Monday today😂

How I'm moving through it...

 

Letting my body move slower, at whatever pace feels good to me.

 

Even while doing time sensitive tasks, we can CHOOSE our physiology. How deeply and slowly are we breathing? Are we relaxing our shoulders? Being aware of our thoughts without buying into them? Are we choosing the posture that feels good in our body?

 

Lots of mini-breaks to eat, drink water, step outside and smell the air. Whatever feels aligned in this moment is ALWAYS enough.

 

So often we spend every minute of the day doing all the things our mind thinks we "SHOULD" do. I have to do this to pay my bills... I have to do this or someone will get mad... What I really WANT to do is walk around the block, or jump up and down, or jump into the lake, but that's too silly, so I'm going to go back to doing all the shoulds on my list...

 

If only this one time, I invite you to follow what feels FUN in this moment. NOT what "has" to be done! It'll surprise you how often the "shoulds" are more easily taken care of at another moment or in another way, when we listen to the moment to moment desires of our heart.

 

Letting it be easy.

 

Allowing however my body feels today to be enough. Not grasping for anything to be different. Instead noticing what would feel good and doing those things one by one. This alone shifts my vibration, energizes my body and restores my light.

 

No matter what day it is on your calendar or how you're feeling in this moment, you ALWAYS get to choose to follow what feels good, or listen to your mind.

 

Tune in.

 

Your body already knows.

What next aligned action would feel good right now?

 





xo Samara Lane



8.19.22

I'm not perfect.

 I have good days and challenging days.

 

Moments of pure bliss and moments of emotional overwhelm. 

 

I just don't make it mean anything anymore.

 

My relationship isn't perfect.

 

Sometimes I fall into old behaviors of controlling or judging. Sometimes my partner struggles with his own "stuff" and isn't available to meet as many of my needs.

 

This used to take over my life, hijack my brain and leave me stressing for months on end.

 

Now I just acknowledge and accept that life and relationships are not a fairytale and we all have our ups and downs, and that means some emotional ups and downs too.

 

And that's okay!

 

My job isn't to have the perfect relationship, or be the perfect mother, or do what I think the world expects or requires of me.

 

My job is to be all of me.

 

Maybe my husband and I will be together forever, maybe we won't.

 

I know and trust myself enough to be completely at peace with whatever life brings our way. 

 

Maybe my kid won't turn out the way I envisioned she "should" or she'll end up in therapy one day complaining about all the things I didn't do right.

 

I know and trust that she is already enough no matter what life choices she makes, and so am I.

 

So today I choose to embrace myself exactly as I am.

 

As one of my clients brilliantly shared this week, "I'm doing the very best I can, and that is enough."

 

YOU ARE ENOUGH.

 

You are doing the very best you can with what you have in this moment, and that is ALWAYS enough.

 

If you already knew that you're truly enough, that you can trust your own choices and that the negativity committee in your head doesn't mean anything...

 

What would you give yourself permission to do, make, say, think, feel or believe?

 

Start there. :) 




xo Samara Lane



8.17.22

Here's the fact that your fear keeps missing...

No relationship will save you.

There is no perfect partner waiting out there for you who will finally give you the peace, confidence and happiness that you desire.

Everything you want in a partner is actually already within you. It doesn't exist out there, it can only be found in here.

This was one of my biggest ah-ha's that freed me from relationship anxiety.

Relationships will never feel easy for you as long as you're constantly on the look out for something better or trying to fix or change the person you're with.

If you now chose to be 100% unavailable for fear and self-doubt, what next step would you take?

If your answer is that you'd FINALLY let go of all this bullshit relationship anxiety / OCD so that you can embrace your authentic, trusting self and let your choices be enough, no matter what society or your parents say...

That's right.

Now is the time to take the next step, join Unstoppable Love and experience the relief and joy you've been waiting for.

Just in their first weeks of joining, my clients have celebrated SO many wins:

🤩Already feeling so much better about themselves and their relationships within days or weeks of joining Unstoppable Love.

🤩Creating their own peace and relief inside themselves from simple shifts, even with the chaos of a work day.

🤩Connecting the dots and finally understanding where their relationship anxiety truly comes from. (Without ANY worst fears coming true!)

Yes my love, all of this is possible and more. This is just the beginning...

If these are the typical results across different clients from completely unique backgrounds after just a matter of days or weeks...

...IMAGINE what you could accomplish and how much freer you'll feel with 3 whole months of this incredible, customized support.

How Unstoppable Love works:

 🔥 Discover why you have relationship anxiety and where it really stems from, so you can tackle the root issues instead of surface level symptoms.

 🔥 Understand your unique anxiety cycle and the exact steps to break free, so you can start feeling relief both now and long term.

🔥  Uncover the myths and roadblocks that have been keeping you stuck, so you can finally free yourself with proven techniques that actually work.

🔥  Learn how to tap into unlimited peace, confidence and trust in yourself, your choices and your relationship.

 🔥 This program covers everything from emotions, thoughts and beliefs, to healing old wounds with Inner Child Work, to improving communication and conflict with your partner. Our one-of-a-kind holistic approach leaves no stone left unturned, so you can enjoy lasting results.

 🔥 Reconnect with your self-love, self-trust and tap into your innate wisdom for a happier relationship and life.

 🔥Learn how to feel safe, secure and unstoppable no matter what life throws your way.

What you get:

  3 months of private coaching calls with me (every other week for 60 mins) to help you create the deepest transformation as quickly as possible.

  Calls are conveniently hosted on Zoom, so you'll get live coaching with me no matter where you live.

  Instant access to my proven step-by-step system with weekly videos and exercises. No stone is left unturned, so you and your relationship can thrive for years to come.

  Lifetime access to all the videos, exercises and materials. Go at your own pace and confidently tackle any new challenge that comes your way.

  3 months of unlimited, personalized support inside the members-only group (for all those “oh $#*!” moments.) I'll answer all your questions so you're never stuck.

  A safe, private community of people just like you so you never feel alone again.

  Easy payment plans are available to make this accessible to you.

  100% satisfaction, money back guarantee. Start seeing results risk-free!

Unstoppable Love is the live program that's proven to take you from crippling doubts to finding your own peace and happiness, so you can start planning your future and enjoying the partner you already have.

If you’re ready to break free from fear and reconnect with your power and freedom, no matter what your unique relationship concerns may be…

Then this is for you and now is the time.

You know you're freaking done with anxiety, so what are you waiting for?

DM me for details and next steps + answers to ANY questions you may have





xo Samara Lane



8.15.22

I get it. (Like, really, I do.)

If you've been ruminating all day about your relationship, how to make it better so that you can finally feel happier or certain about it...

✨Know that you're not alone.✨

If you're using every opportunity to Google, research, watch the same videos on repeat, frantically scour Reddit and Facebook groups for answers...

Know that I've been there, too. I did ALL OF IT.

I also took courses, read books and worked with some of the best experts in the industry, but everything fell short.

After years of struggling with serious doubts & ROCD, I finally cracked the code on relationship anxiety.

Over time, I slowly but powerfully pieced together the holistic solution that I now teach my clients. (Keep reading for details.) Only through this system did I experience deep, lasting relief and a truly successful relationship.

💜Today, I’ve been happily married to that same amazing, (wildly imperfect!) man for over 7+ years.💜

Now, I wake up every morning feeling confident and excited for our marriage and grateful that I get to do this for the rest of my life. When we have a hard day (because all couples will face new challenges), we know how to use it to strengthen our bond and come away feeling closer than ever.

When I go to bed at night, I feel peace, calm, and total alignment with my choice to commit to him. I can finally say with total faith: he’s my person!

You can have all that, too.

I know this because I’ve seen the life-changing transformation in my clients’ relationships. They’ve shared with me the joy and relief they feel after aligning with their highest truth and discovering the answers that were always there just under the surface.

As a certified life coach & Relationship Anxiety/ROCD Expert who lived through it myself, I can show you how.

With the support of group coaching and my step-by-step system, my clients don’t have to struggle for years, wondering if they’re with the right person.

They typically start feeling relief fast + get lasting results so they can enjoy a happier relationship than they ever thought possible, even if they or their partner are far from perfect.

Get started here with coaching program options to break free from Relationship Anxiety/OCD

Let this be the one decision that you trust in life... the decision to let go of fear and be happy.

💜Here's what's ACTUALLY possible for your relationship:

“The results have been undeniable. We are a different couple now. We have learned how to fulfill each other’s needs better and listen and appreciate each other more deeply.  And now I'm feeling so loved, genuinely happy, and at peace! I truly feel understood and cherished. I look forward to our future together and have fallen more deeply in love, all over again, and believe he is my happily ever after."

— Michelle L.

“The results have been amazing and actually life-changing. I am cutting the anxiety off before it even starts. I am able to be 100% present and go into my relationship in a new way. I can face my fears. I am now much stronger, more aware and free. I am so thankful. My life and my relationship will forever be changed in the best way."

— Kandysse C.


✨Would you love to break free from intrusive thoughts and find peace? Message me here to learn more about the Unstoppable Love program




xo Samara Lane



8.8.22

Is it really Relationship Anxiety / ROCD?

Discover the difference between "red flags" and Relationship Anxiety/OCD, where it comes from and why we have it, plus next steps to overcome relationship doubts for good.



Click here to watch the interview


xo Samara Lane



8.5.22

The 5 Main Reasons People Struggle to Overcome Relationship Anxiety / ROCD:

 

1) They believe their fearful, negative thoughts and take them at face value. When thoughts come up like "am I settling? Do I love my partner? Am I attracted to them? Is this really RA/ROCD?" they buy into the fears because they feel intense and "real" and spiral deeper into rumination.

2) They don't have a good strategy for stopping compulsions that feed the anxiety cycle. They keep Googling, ruminating, "checking" how they feel and seeking reassurance from others. This band-aid fix never lasts and they don't know there are proven ways to stop compulsions.

3) They avoid what triggers them instead of getting curious about the deeper inner work. They might even avoid getting help because they're afraid of realizing or being told they have to leave their partner. (When in truth this is not a solution or necessary.) 

4) They don't know the difference between fear and fact, which is perpetuated by all the relationship myths we see daily. We grow up with Disney, Hollywood and social media portraying "picture perfect" relationships, and are taught to trust everyone else's opinions more than our own heart's desires and inner wisdom.

5) They aren't aware of their actual root issues and how to heal them. This could be anything from perfectionism, lack of self-trust and relationship myths, to trauma, high sensitivity and childhood wounding (even from a happy home.) Until we know what's keeping us stuck, there is almost ZERO chance of changing it!

I used to do ALL 5 of these without even realizing it.

If you're thinking "yep, hand raised..." then know that these are incredibly common pitfalls (you're normal) and this can absolutely change.

You can overcome whatever is holding you back and step into the happy, confident, peaceful version of yourself who trusts your choices and loves your relationship. (Yes, even YOUR relationship!)

If you'd love to learn how, let's connect!


xo Samara Lane



8.3.22

WHICH OF THESE 7 RELATIONSHIP MYTHS ARE STEALING YOUR JOY?

Just think about Hollywood love stories, Disney romance, and EVERYTHING our culture portrays about relationships, and it's no wonder we have so many misconceptions about love and marriage.

Even though we understand that Prince Charming doesn't exist, on some level we still believe the stories we've been taught. We're left constantly doubting our relationship and comparing it to others. We wonder, "is my relationship healthy? Is it normal? Is it right for me?" These recurring thoughts stem from Relationship Anxiety / Relationship OCD and keep us in a loop of fear.

It's time to stop wondering and starting busting those myths!

Here are the Top 7 Relationship Myths and how to bust through them, so you can have a beautiful, thriving relationship with the partner you already have:

1. Doubt means don’t. When I finally revealed my deepest engagement doubts, my well-meaning mom replied, “if it was the right person, you’d know.” This is a MYTH that so many people buy into. We forget that fear, doubts, and overanalyzing are simply things the brain does. Especially when it appears that there’s a lot at stake (ahem, marriage.) As Highly Sensitive People (HSP's), we also think and feel more deeply, so we tend to overanalyze any big life choices - and even small ones!

2. If something bothers me, it’s the wrong relationship. This misconception is prolific and it takes so many forms.  For instance, “If I don’t feel attracted to them sometimes… If I don’t feel like I love them sometimes… If they do something that triggers me… If they do something I don't agree with... then they’re not the right partner.” This is actually a cognitive distortion, known as "Black & White Thinking," or "All Or Nothing Thinking." The truth is, you won’t always feel attracted to your partner. You won’t always feel "love" all the time. Your partner will piss you off and hurt you sometimes. They’ll do something that makes you wanna pull your hair out. That’s relationships, and frankly, that's people.

3. Your partner should meet ALL your needs, or check ALL your boxes. Not true! No one on the planet can check all your boxes. That’s called perfectionism and it doesn’t exist. And guess what? Your boxes will change. Your needs will change. You will evolve. Your partner will, too. There's no way for anyone to know what they'll need or want 10-20 years from now. And luckily, that's not even what marriage is about. Happily married couples don’t "check all the boxes." They work together as a team: they maintain an open dialogue, solve whatever they can solve together, and practice compassion for their differences.

4. Good relationships are easy. Happy couples never fight. Err! Wrong. Fighting happens even in happy marriages. Marriages are TONS of work. All relationships are, and your marriage is one of the biggest jobs of them all. You live together, you build an entire life together, for two unique individuals. That’s gonna require lots of work, communication, and navigating new, uncharted territory. 

5. There’s 1 person or soulmate for everyone. Sorry, wrong again. There are 7 billion people and counting. Why would there only be 1 person you can be happy with? Again, this is a fairy tale Disney tried to sell us. Don’t buy it. There are at least thousands of potential partners we could build a happy life with. You’ve already picked one of them - so go "all in" with the partner you have. Practice 100% commitment, especially when it’s hard. You get to choose your partner, so practice choosing them like you mean it.

6. Your partner should complete you. Truth is, if you externalize your happiness, you’ll never be happy. This was SO me. I’d be having a bad day, or some relationship challenges would pop up, and my mind would go RIGHT to the escapist fantasy. “Maybe if I had a different partner I’d be happier. If my partner was more ___, this wouldn't be so bad.” But these thoughts aren’t based in reality, and I was only seeing the good parts of this imaginary relationship. Instead of projecting your unhappiness onto your relationship, look at the negative emotions you’re experiencing underneath. Lean into the discomfort. Stop running from your pain and frustration. That’s just an escape tactic. You will not be happier until you manifest your own happiness for yourself.

7. If it’s the right partner, your feelings will never change. Feelings come and go. Emotions come and go. There’s also something called limerence. This is the Infatuation Period or Honeymoon Phase that some couples experience at the beginning of a relationship. The "goo goo ga ga" days where your partner walks on water and everything they do seems perfect. It’s just hormones, and it never lasts. In fact, the passing of this phase is a sign that your relationship has matured. That's a good thing. If you keep chasing those feelings of limerence, you'll never stay in a relationship and you'll always end up disappointed.

Ready to break free from relationship doubts and feel at peace with your partner?

Learn more about the Unstoppable Love program here.



xo Samara Lane



8.1.22

What we WISH our shadows would say...

“Hey, you know those insecurities and that perfectionism you’ve struggled with all your life? Well, now that you’re in a secure, loving relationship, that old programming doesn’t really ‘fit’ anymore, so it’s time to start healing it, please.”

What our shadows ACTUALLY say:

“I always wanted a partner who checked off every box on my 179 item list. This partner is missing 2. I’m settling.”

“My partner is acting so repulsively right now. I can’t stand them. I can’t believe I’m with this person. I’m so much better than that.”

“Omg it’s been 3 hours. They haven’t texted me back. Do they still love me? They don’t. They’re over it. I always knew this would happen. I’m going to dump them now before they have the chance to break my heart.”

This is called projection.

It’s arguably the #1 reason why we stay stuck in Relationship Anxiety / ROCD for months or years longer than we need to.

Has your mind ever tried one of these projections on you?

Hand raised!

I used to experience EVERY single version of these and so many others.

A few days ago one of my private clients said this so perfectly…

"The HARDEST lesson was the fact that my suffering doesn’t come from my relationship with my partner. It comes from my relationship with myself and I project it all over the place. My mind has had its greatest battle with this.”

Yes. Yes. YES.

If you’re still doubting, stay the course…

All the love, connection and peace of mind you desire are waiting for you.

It just takes unlearning the cycles of projection that we ALL do…

And returning to the wholeness and completeness that is you.

Learn more here about the Unstoppable Love program and find lasting relief from Relationship Anxiety or ROCD.

xo Samara Lane


PS - Even if your partner has flaws or your relationship has challenges, I promise you that they’re MUCH EASIER to resolve when we’ve done our own inner work!

 

PPS - Notice if your mind started shaming you as you started to read this post, or if it allowed you to laugh compassionately at yourself. Then give yourself an extra dose of compassion either way. There's no shame in recognizing our shadows. All human beings have them! And they're simply our natural response to childhood pain, wounding and trauma.


7.29.22

Fear and anxiety tell us that we need to avoid and control.

Avoid anything that scares us.

Avoid anything that seems uncertain or risky.

Avoid anything remotely uncomfortable.

Control our external environment.

Control our destiny by making the “right” choices.

Control how others act so that we can feel better inside ourselves.

 

Love and trust remind us that we’re already safe, secure, whole and complete.

 

You are:

 

Safe to stay instead of run.

Safe to take risks in your relationships and passions.

Safe to challenge your comfort zones.

 

Safe to lean back into the arms of faith and trust…

 

Remembering that deep down we already have everything we need within us to be happy and fulfilled now.

 

The more I practice this, the more miracles unfold all around me.

 

✨ I married my amazing partner. We're still happily together after 10 years of couplehood (despite many bumps along the way) and get to raise our beautiful daughter together.

 

✨ I found my passion and my life's work. I get to help others reconnect with their authentic selves so they can heal their fears, find peace and trust their choices.

 

✨ I truly love and trust myself. I know how to make decisions with confidence, flow through life with ease, AND still embrace my raw, messy human-ness without judgment.

 

Do you want to:

 

❤️ Feel calm, peaceful and present all day long, be in charge of your mindset and free from intrusive thoughts?

 

❤️ Be truly confident in yourself so that you can stop second guessing, trust your choices and make decisions with ease?

 

❤️ Genuinely love yourself, feel amazing in your mind, body & spirit and finally relax into the knowing that you're already enough?

❤️ Release negative stories and emotions so that you never have to berate yourself or feel riddled with guilt again?

 

Then Alignment Unleashed is the live program + community that your heart has been searching for.

 

Doors are only open for a few more days! 🎉

 

Alignment Unleashed is the program that gives you unlimited live support & coaching from me + lifetime access to my proven system to help you transform doubt and fear into clarity and unshakeable confidence.

 

Here’s what people are saying:

 

🔥 “I am feeling so much better! Hope has returned when I thought there was none.”  

 

🔥 "The results have been amazing and actually life-changing. I am cutting the anxiety off before it even starts." 

 

🔥 “I love this so much, thank you for this soothing and comforting advice. I’m so so glad I joined this group.” 

 

🔥 "If you're serious about growth in your life, hire this woman yesterday."  

 

You'll learn how to master my signature ALIGN Method that perfectly blends ancient wisdom & practical tools:

 

🕊 Release anxiety mentally, emotionally and physically so you can be present and relaxed through out your day.

💪🏽 Break free from intrusive thoughts, fears and limiting beliefs so that you can have WAY more time and energy for enjoying your relationships, work and passions.

🧘🏽‍♀️ Reconnect with your authentic self for true happiness and all the answers you seek (without being told that your worst fears are true.)

❤️ Heal any hidden wounds, patterns or inner child so you can finally feel free and in charge.

🚀 Take aligned actions so you can experience unlimited peace, joy and success now + watch as your deepest desires unfold around you.

 

Think of this as your one-stop, all-access pass for releasing all forms of anxiety, fear & doubt. 

 

No matter what topic or theme your anxiety is fixated on (and even if it changes), Alignment Unleashed is for you:

 

- Anxiety (relationship, dating, health, body, work, business, money, etc.)

- OCD (any theme)

- Self-doubt or lack of self-trust

- Decision paralysis

- Low self-esteem/confidence

- Past wounds/inner child

 

I'll personally guide you, answer all your questions and help you transform into the happiest, freest version of yourself that you’ve ever known.

 

Join us in Alignment Unleashed now to receive:

 

- unlimited, LIVE, personalized Q&A coaching to help you powerfully move through any question or challenge with confidence and ease.

- lifetime course access so you can go at your own pace, pick and choose the topics you care about most & revisit this life changing work anytime.

- virtual "front row seats" to the proven tools & trainings that will set you free.

 

For a limited time:

 

+ You get all of this for just $367 (payment plans available!) before the price goes up to $999 in August.

 

+ Receive a FREE bonus of x5 monthly Hot Seat & Connection group coaching calls where you get to work with me face-to-face & get answers to all your biggest questions for massive clarity and breakthroughs.

 

+ Get a FREE bonus 30 minutes of private, 1-on-1 coaching with me by phone or Zoom to help fast-track your results and relief in a fraction of the time.

 

This program combines all of the best PROVEN tools, techniques and wisdom that have created REAL results in the lives of my clients for years and years. Plus brand new teachings that I’ve never released before!

 

Anxiety, doubt and second guessing don’t have to rule your life anymore.

 

Alignment Unleashed is the proven method + personalized guidance you need to catapult you toward true freedom and relief now.

 

Click here to see full program details, pricing + payment plans

 

The price TRIPLES on August 1st, so sign up now.

 

If you're an action taker who's serious about showing up and creating infinite happiness and peace in your life...

 

Then Alignment Unleashed is your next step.

 

I know this program can change your life and I'm so looking forward to working with you in this expanded way!

 



xo Samara Lane


7.27.22

Are you tired of second guessing yourself, not feeling at peace + your mind always finding something to obsessively worry about?

Are you OVER this pattern of getting stuck in a rut and not truly living?

Are you ready for freedom NOW?

Inner peace NOW?

Self-trust NOW?

Then joining Alignment Unleashed now is a no-brainer.

How is Alignment Unleashed different from other programs?

🌈Alignment Unleashed is the live program that gives you UNLIMITED coaching + tools to transform anxiety, OCD, doubt & decision paralysis into peace of mind, confidence and lasting relief.

🌈You'll receive my entire step-by-step system along with live, personalized support and answers to all your questions so that you can finally experience the freedom from anxiety you've been looking for. Plus get incredible bonuses and savings when you sign up now.

⭐️This program has no end date. That means you pay once and the entire program, ongoing live coaching calls + any new trainings released in this space are locked in and yours forever.

⭐️If you're thinking "holy crap that's a good deal," you're right! Why am I offering all this? Honestly, it's because my heart says hell yes to it, and whenever I follow that divine inspiration, everyone wins.

❤️My other programs focus solely on relationship anxiety/ROCD and are still the best option if that's the ONLY thing you want help with.

Alignment Unleashed is different...

❤️Think of this as your one-stop, all-access pass for releasing all forms of anxiety, fear & doubt. No matter what topic or theme your anxiety is fixated on (and even if it changes), Alignment Unleashed is for you:

- Anxiety (relationship, dating, health, body, work, business, money, etc.)

- OCD (any theme)

- Self-doubt or lack of self-trust

- Decision paralysis

- Low self-esteem/confidence

- Past wounds/inner child

🔥Last but certainly not least, this is my MOST AFFORDABLE offer ever at just $367 total or x3 low monthly payments of $147 when you sign up now before enrollment ends. (In just a few days the price goes up to $999, so join now and save.)

🔥Most other live coaching programs start at $1500+ and only last a few months. Don't miss this incredible opportunity to save BIG and get lasting relief from anxiety + personalized guidance in a safe community of like-minded souls!

Act now and join Alignment Unleashed before the price TRIPLES on August 1st.

This LIVE, lifetime access program starts now and I know it’s going to change your life.

(See all the details & pricing here.)

Take it from them:

🔥“I am feeling so much better! Hope has returned when I thought there was none.”

🔥"The results have been amazing and actually life-changing. I am cutting the anxiety off before it even starts."

🔥“I love this so much, thank you for this soothing and comforting advice. I’m so so glad I joined this group.”

🔥"If you're serious about growth in your life, hire this woman yesterday."

How this works:

🕊Release anxiety mentally, emotionally and physically for holistic wellbeing

🧘🏽‍♀️Reconnect with your authentic self for true happiness and all the answers you seek (without being told that your worst fears are true)

💪🏽Break free from fears and limiting beliefs to become unstoppable

❤️Heal any hidden wounds or patterns so you can finally feel free

🚀Take aligned action so you can experience infinite peace, joy and success now watch as your deepest desires unfold around you.

Think of this as your one-stop, all-access pass for releasing all forms of anxiety, fear & doubt.

What you get:

My proven step-by-step system called the ALIGN Method for breaking free from anxiety, OCD, doubt & decision paralysis so you can experience heaven on earth now, be your happiest self, discover all your own best answers, and manifest everything you desire in your relationships, work, business, health and life.

Tons of new, specialized trainings will also be released based directly on what you and other members are asking for. This is unlike any other program out there as you get to help co-create this space and it keeps growing with you. (And don't worry about overwhelm - you get to pick and choose the trainings that speak to you.)

Weekly live calls in our exclusive members-only group. I’ll help you navigate ANY questions, goals or blocks around whatever area of life feels most "up" for you, so you can find the answers, happiness and freedom you desire. Calls are recorded for all members, so you can watch the replay if you can't make it live, and/or return to them anytime!

Exclusive access to our members-only Facebook group where you can ask questions, share ideas and get real live support from me and other members, so you're never stuck in your head or feeling alone in this again. This is a safe, private, engaged community where you can connect with incredible souls just like you. We're all here to lift each other up, support one another and answer each other’s questions. We're all serious about transformation here!

LIFETIME access to ALL of this. Yep, that's right. You signup once and it's yours forever. (Including live weekly coaching for as long as this program exists, and I have NO plans of ever ending it!) All the recorded calls, trainings and tools - including any new ones that I release into this space - are yours forever! You can go at your own pace and revisit these powerful teachings anytime.

LIMITED TIME BONUS: x5 monthly live Hot Seat & Connection coaching Zoom calls. If you'd love more face to face time to ask questions and do a deeper dive, these are for you. Get laser focused coaching directly from me, so you can feel relief and see results even faster.

LIMITED TIME BONUS: 30 minutes of private 1-on-1 coaching with me by phone or Zoom to help fast-track your results and relief in a fraction of the time.

This is a uniquely high-vibe space where you'll be surrounded by the ENERGY of people who truly believe in you, so that you can make transformative shifts and get powerful results. If you're an action taker who's committed to the process and serious about creating real change and happiness in your life, this is for you.

Sign up now to reserve your spot before this offer ends.

Anxiety, triggers and negative thoughts don’t have to rule your life anymore.

I'll personally guide you, answer all your questions and help you transform into the happiest, freest version of yourself that you’ve ever known.

Get all the details & payment plans + sign up now!

The price TRIPLES on August 1st, so sign up now before these massive savings and premium bonuses disappear.

If you're ready to take charge of your thoughts so you can feel peaceful and present no matter what...

Then Alignment Unleashed is the program + community you've been waiting for.

Still unsure? Ask yourself...

Have you already gone back and forth 10 times on whether to do this program?

That’s all the proof you need to know that Alignment Unleashed is EXACTLY what you're needing most and it’s seriously going to change your life.

You’re sooo done with overthinking and ready to trust your choices. Alignment Unleashed will help you do this and SO much more.

I know this program will change your life and I'm so looking forward to working with you in this expanded way!

xo Samara Lane


7.25.22

As a child I struggled with anxiety and fear since I can remember.



As a child I struggled with anxiety and fear since I can remember.

I remember doing all sorts of compulsions:

- Avoiding things that scared me.

- Seeking reassurance from my mom and others (especially because I was often riddled with guilt and shame over everyday things.)

- Ruminating over things without even realizing it.

- Constantly worrying about the future and what would happen.

- Regretting the past and what if I’d made a terrible mistake.

- Or worrying, what was everything thinking about me?

- Did they like me? Was I good enough?

This was the story of my life since I can remember.

As a teenager I fell into all sorts of self-destructive behaviors and it only got worse.

As a young adult I still drank everyday well into my 20’s trying to relieve the anxiety.

I had anxiety about the pressures of my job, my relationship anxiety / ROCD, fear of commitment, major social anxiety and always comparing myself to others.

It was exhausting and crippling!

Then one day, everything changed.

I was sitting in the living room at a friend of a friend's house in South Seattle.

She told me something I’ll never forget.

She told me that we're all intuitive, whether we realize it or not.

Not "intuitive" like a crystal ball... intuitive like connected to Divine, to something higher than our egoic mind.

We all have the power to align with our truest, highest selves and find our own best answers within us.

Not "answers" like certainty... answers like how to heal and empower ourselves, lean back into our trust, and live life + make decisions with ease.

And ever since that day, I've surrounded myself with coaches and teachers who believe the same thing.

I've learned the practices that have freed me and hundreds of others from anxiety, fear and self-doubt. (And even intense OCD tendencies.)

And I'm here to share them all with you while guiding you through this journey on your path toward confidence, clarity and inner peace.

❤️ Do you want to break free from anxiety, fear and stress so you can live from a space of calm, ease and flow no matter what?

❤️ Are you ready to move out of your head and back into your heart, so you can relax and enjoy the peace, presence and confidence of who you truly are?

❤️ Would you love to feel truly confident in yourself so that you can stop second guessing, trust your choices and make decisions with confidence?

❤️ Would you love to have WAY more time and energy for your passions and the things in life that matter to you most?

Then Alignment Unleashed is for you.

Doors are now OPEN for this week only!🎉

Alignment Unleashed is the program that gives you UNLIMITED live support from me + lifetime access to my proven system to help you transform doubt & anxiety into lasting relief & unshakeable confidence.

But don’t take it from me…

Here’s what clients are saying:

🔥“I am feeling so much better! Hope has returned when I thought there was none.”

🔥 "The results have been amazing and actually life-changing. I am cutting the anxiety off before it even starts."

🔥“I love this so much, thank you for this soothing and comforting advice. I’m so so glad I joined this group.”

🔥"If you're serious about growth in your life, hire this woman yesterday."

You'll learn how to master my signature ALIGN Method that perfectly blends ancient wisdom & practical tools:

🕊Release anxiety mentally, emotionally and physically for holistic wellbeing

🧘🏽‍♀️Reconnect with your authentic self for true happiness and all the answers you seek (without being told that your worst fears are true)

💪🏽Break free from fears and limiting beliefs to become unstoppable

❤️Heal any hidden wounds or patterns so you can finally feel free

🚀Take aligned action so you can experience infinite peace, joy and success now

I'll personally guide you, answer all your questions and help you transform into the happiest, freest version of yourself that you’ve ever known.

Join us in Alignment Unleashed now to receive:

- unlimited, LIVE, personalized Q&A coaching to help you powerfully move through any question or challenge with confidence and ease.

- lifetime course access so you can go at your own pace, pick and choose the topics you care about most & revisit this life changing work anytime.

- virtual "front row seats" to the proven tools & trainings that will set you free.

For a limited time:

+ You get all of this for just $367 (payment plans available!) before the price goes up to $999 in August.

+ Receive a FREE bonus of x5 monthly Hot Seat & Connection group coaching calls where you get to work with me face-to-face & get answers to all your biggest questions for massive clarity and breakthroughs.

+ Get a FREE bonus 30 minutes of private, 1-on-1 coaching with me by phone or Zoom to help fast-track your results and relief in a fraction of the time.

This program combines all of the best PROVEN tools, techniques and wisdom that have created REAL results in the lives of my clients for years and years. Plus brand new teachings that I’ve never released before!

Anxiety, doubt and second guessing don’t have to rule your life anymore.

Alignment Unleashed is the fresh start you need to catapult you toward true freedom and relief.

Click here to see full program details, pricing + payment plans

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Save your spot NOW! - The price is only $367 and it TRIPLES on August 1st (payment plans available!)

If you're an action taker who's serious about showing up and creating infinite happiness and peace in your life...

Then Alignment Unleashed is the program + community you've been waiting for.

I know this program can change your life and I'm so looking forward to working with you in this expanded way!

xo Samara Lane


7.23.22

I know firsthand how TERRIFYING it feels when our fearful mind thinks:

"What if I realize that I don't want to be with my partner anymore or that this journey is something I need to do alone?"

I'm here to debunk this myth once and for all.

In the 10 combined years that I've spent healing my own RA/ROCD, studying it from all angles and coaching countless clients through it, here's what I've found...

Not only do we find that we don't need to leave our partners... we discover a deeper love and confidence than we EVER thought possible.

Still skeptical?

Here's what one of my clients said on our call last week:

“I thought that if I did this work, I'd find that I have to leave or that I don't care for this person. And it's been the COMPLETE OPPOSITE. I've realized how much my partner means to me. Now I'm interrupting the pattern before it even starts. It's a night and day difference and I'm so proud of myself! I never thought I'd get here."

Message me here to learn more

Here's a friendly reminder for today:

You are enough.

Your partner is enough.

Your relationship is enough.

It really gets to be that simple!

Sending you ALL my love & hope.

xo Samara Lane


7.21.22

Any fears (or feelings of "faking it") been popping up about your relationship lately?

If so, here's a powerful trick to take you from petrified to peaceful.

I use this journaling exercise to shift any of my fears, especially when I'm faced with a new challenge or situation in life.

1) What's the fear / limiting belief saying?

2) What evidence can you find AGAINST this? Poke all the holes in it. Because deep down we know it's BS!

3) What's the helpful, loving, empowering version that you WANT to believe? Because really, all our thoughts, beliefs and perspectives are made up anyway! So why not believe the narrative that reflects the life you desire?

4) What evidence can you find to support this new belief, any evidence at all?

Remember, it takes daily practice and reframing to shift our beliefs.

This is not a "one and done" approach. Just like you don't tell your kid/spouse "I love you" only once, your relationship with yourself needs attention on a regular basis.

It can be 5 MINUTES. (We all have 5 mins!) But the more often you do this type of work with intention, the more freedom and joy you will experience in your life.

Deep down, you KNOW you deserve that and so much more.

Every time we evolve into the next level version of ourselves, we might be visited by the ghosts of old fears or the phantoms of new ones. It doesn't mean anything except that you're GROWING, and that's BEAUTIFUL!

Remember my loves...

Breaking up is not the answer. YOU are. Healing IS possible for you and you CAN enjoy freedom, peace and confidence without having to be single or leave your partner. You can do this!!!

GET STARTED HERE

xo Samara Lane


7.19.22

I never thought I'd share love advice from a Lego spider, but...

Funny story...

A few months ago, Cody and I took our daughter to a Lego exhibit in downtown Seattle. One of the Lego sculptures that caught my eye was a giant Black Widow spider.

There was a small sign next to the sculpture with interesting facts about the "real life" spider. (Like that it's actually called a Redback spider. Who knew!)

I was fascinated to read facts about something that's always creeped me out and terrified me. (Not a spider fan, here.)

But later that night, while getting ready for bed, I felt the anxious urge to look around my bedroom floor juuust in case there might be a Black Widow spider lurking.

Interesting, huh?...

I had NEVER thought about Black Widow spiders being in my room before.

But because I've carried a deep seated fear of spiders around for many years, AND because I'd recently been "exposed" to the Black Widow (albeit made of Legos), this anxiety was activated.

Relationship Anxiety and ROCD are no different.

Relationship Anxiety takes a deep-seated fear that we already carry, like:

A fear of profound loss,

Not being happy,

Making mistakes,

Being rejected or judged,

Or not being enough.

Then, when we're exposed to ANY tiny hint that this fear could come true, our anxiety is activated.

But instead of a Lego spider, it's usually something like seeing a happy couple or our partner disappointing us.

When you distill it down, it's all a fear response.

It feels very intense in the moment, which our mind equates with "realness" or "validity." When in fact the only reason it feels so real is because a deeper fear response has been triggered.

So ask yourself, what are the facts?

The fact is, there's no imminent danger. Just like there is no Black Widow spider in my room, your relationship is not ruined and you are not incapable of healing.

Just because another couple seems happier or your partner isn't perfect doesn't mean your relationship is doomed.

Just as seeing a Lego spider doesn't mean there's a highly venomous bug in my bed.

If this seems like a silly comparison, it's because truly, the mind is silly AF.

The mind doesn't say facts, it spews fears.

So instead of believing what your fearful, anxious mind tells you... why not choose a perspective that feels empowering to you?

When I noticed my anxious urge in the bedroom, I paused. I took some slow deep breaths, and reminded myself it was safe:

"I feel super vulnerable right now. And in this moment, I am so safe."

And so are you.

If you want personalized 1:1 support, coaching and proven steps to help you actually break free from Relationship Anxiety / ROCD so that you're cutting off the fear before it even starts...

...Message me here and let's start a private, confidential, ZERO pressure conversation (just you and me) to explore solutions that feel amazing to you!



xo Samara Lane


7.18.22

LIFE NEVER GETS EASIER.

You just get better.

In the past, if something uncertain happened like my husband getting laid off, I would've freaked out and tried to pressure & micromanage him into doing everything I thought he "should" be so that I could feel more in control and "okay."

If me and my partner got into an argument, I would've doubted our entire relationship for hours, days or longer.

If my kid did something that my egoic mind judged as bad, wrong or embarrassing, I would have taken it WAY too seriously and rushed in trying to get her to behave differently so that I could feel like a "good" mom.

If I felt anxiety over something, I would've judged myself for it and beaten myself up for it, like why can't I just be "normal" and free like everyone else seems to be, especially after years of inner work?

I'm still not perfect, but I have come a long way. And I'm so grateful for the ease and grace I am able to tap into without even trying, even when shit hits the fan and life gets messy.

How did I get here?

By doing hard things that challenged and scared me, like getting married, starting my own business and becoming a mom.

Trusting my desires instead of the "shoulds" that my mind used to scream at me.

Breathing into the pain, the discomfort whenever it needed a stay in my guest house.

Loving, accepting and celebrating myself, my progress and the incredible blessings in my life, OVER AND OVER, no matter.

Especially the celebrating myself and my progress. Every. Small. Win. Counts.

You are doing it, my friend. And I'm so freaking proud of you, too.

(And if you don't feel like you're there yet, join us in Alignment Unleashed.)

Anxiety tells us to grasp for control, resist what's uncomfortable, grasp for pleasure.

Self-trust leans back into faith and knowing that everything is always working out for our highest good.

And so it is.

Self-trust looks like basking in gratitude for all that I have, no matter what's going on around me.

From this space of ease and trust, everything falls into place.

xo Samara Lane


7.11.22

WE'VE BEEN TAUGHT THAT...

"Love is an emotion and nothing more."

When you think about it, wouldn't that be kind of sad?

Because emotions are fickle and fleeting. They're temporary. They come and go.

And the more we grasp for a certain emotion, the more elusive it tends to become.

Love is NOT:

  • The honeymoon phase (limerence.)
  • Always thinking about my partner.
  • Missing them when they're gone.
  • Butterflies.
  • Emotions.
  • Can't live without them.
  • If the relationship ended I'd be heartbroken.
  • Wanting to be around them all the time.
  • Not wanting anyone else but my partner.

Love IS:

  • A choice.
  • An action.
  • It's when we choose to stay with our loving partner even when we're scared and want to run.
  • It's when we do something kind or make a caring gesture even though we don't feel like it.
  • Real love is something we choose consciously in our actions and decisions.

We can choose love anytime we want.

Your emotions do not dictate your life, my friend. Your choices do.

What do you choose TODAY?

Today, I choose my marriage, my partner. I choose to believe only that which serves me. I'm no longer available for any self-limiting beliefs that make me question my own decisions.

This is what I’ve mastered and this is what I’m personally coaching my clients on in my Unstoppable Love program.

Are you ready to step into the confident, peaceful, self-empowered person you already are deep down?

Then check out all the program details now and discover how this can change your life.

xo Samara Lane

https://m.me/samarastr


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